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great_read_awardSo it would seem that someone  out there still loves me. 🙂

Thank you Dee for the very sweet and complimentary award. I would say it was flattering, but “flattery” implies false sentiment — and  I’ve known Curvaceous Dee for a helluva long time, and she is one of the most sincere people I’ve met in the Blogosphere.

So now I have to tell you ten things I do every day. Jeez. I haven’t had enough coffee yet. But hey, what the hell, I’ll give it a go.

1. Talk to the Purrrrvert several times a day. I was thinking I’d write that as numbers 1,3,5,7, and 9 — but that’d be cheating. We’re both very busy people with lots of commitments and work and people who seem to pull us every which way but towards each other, but somehow we manage to find the time to connect and chat any number of times a day.

2. Fart around online. I have any number of time-suck mechanisms at my disposal and I use and abuse all of them. Be it work, emails, reading sex and porn-related stuff or playing Bejewelled Blitz. (I fucking rock at that, I tell you.) I love my gorgeous laptop, with its pretty touchscreen. The interwebs are the shizzle, man. As my good friend Miz Bohemia might say: “Fo’ sho’!!”

3. Drink coffee with vanilla milk. This is every work day. At home, I drink English breakfast tea, by Twinings. With milk. Again — it’s the shizzle.

4. Have a blonde moment. I’m naturally blonde, and I don’t actually subscribe to the “dumb” persona attached to those of the fair-haired persuasion. Usually. Until I do something monumentally daft — pointing the remote control for my car at my front door, looking for my mobile phone when I’m speaking on it — that kind of thing. And then I realise where the whole thing originated.

5. Read. Can’t sleep without reading at least a page or two — or if it’s interesting and I’m not collapse-where-I-stand tired, several more. I always have at least two if not three books on the go — usually fiction, although I also confess to a fetish for autobiographies.

6. Following on from number 5, I’m currently reading “Women on Top” by Nancy Friday and “Notes from a Big country” by Bill Bryson. I re-read books I like, often, although I always have time for a new book. My book club is coming up in a week or two, so I’m hoping to replenish my sadly depleted stock of reading fodder then.

7. Chat with at least four people online, either via Messenger or Gmail or something. I have cyber friends with whom I couldn’t make it through my life — and I am eternally grateful for them. L, my dear friend, if you’re out there, make contact — yes?

8. Do something vanity-inspired. I am astonishingly vain. I cannot walk past a mirror — much in the same way I cannot walk past a shoe store with a “Sale” sign displayed.

9. Write something. I don’t always publish but I cannot make it through the day without writing something that is either a reflection of my feelings or something creative. Often, it’s something personal, for the Feline’s eyes only — and therefore unfit for some of the eyes that grace this page. (Not you, gentle reader — no, no. Others.)

10. Send a poem to the Purrrrvert. Or a clip. Or one of several emails. Or something that i saw or heard that will amuse him. He is always so kind and considerate of me (and everyone else for whom he feels responsible), that I like to let him know that I care in little warm and fuzzy ways — so he shouldn’t feel as though he is burdened by me. He doesn’t, but I like to show him I care anyway. And he loves the exchange of poetry. Sometimes there are poems that speak of us, and our love for each other, and sometimes they are just beautiful pieces that we both read and appreciate.

In fact, just for today, I will share our poem of the day with you too, gentle reader.

Dreams — Langston Hughes

Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. I blushingly post the list below with the warm and fuzzy that the Editor, bless her hand-knitted socks, picked “Food, Fun and Commitment” as her Choice for the week. That piece was one of my more deeply  personal pieces, and meant a great deal to me. Thanks Vix!

Want in Sugasm #168? But of course you do! Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Every Time You Orgasm, An Angel Gets Its Wings
“There is nothing that screams “fuck you” to the pain and the hurt in the world than screaming “fuck me” to the person in your bed.”

HNT: Spanked
“I wasn’t sure how I felt about him. But tonight, I was sure.”

A Thousand Kisses
“This wasn’t enough. I knew that I had to try something else.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Congratulations, you’re invited!

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Honesty: Religion

Editor’s Choice
Food, fun and commitment

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. And not to sound all Sally Field about it, but thank you for top-picking Elegant Smut this week!

Want in Sugasm #167? Of course you do. Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Bare-Assed Cheek (2): Punishment and Reward
“His finger glides up the inner side of my left thigh.”

Lilly’s Turn – Part 1: Wherein a Power Play is Made
“I asked her, outright, if she considered herself submissive.”

“Exquisite pain heralding exquisite surrender.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Is Sasha Grey going mainstream?

Sugasm Editor
A Difficult Scenario

Editor’s Choice
Just Looking

News, Reviews & Interviews
Horny Goat Weed: The Facts
Top Five Tuesday – Pop Culture Porn
Uniram Manual Sex Machine

Sex Advice
Ask Miss Bliss – She Brings Her Man To The All-Girl Sex Party
Guide to First-Time Anal Sex
How to Make Your Own Fucking Machine

BDSM & Fetish
“Dominant Savant…?”
Microfantasy Monday: Tits
My favorite spanking blogs
Riffing on Brent Scott Riffing on Socrates (was Meeting BS)
Thank you, Jay Wiseman
What’s in the box?

Erotic Writing & Experiences
Burning the Midnight Oil
Camera Shy, Part 4
Couch. Confession #278
Drowning In Lust
Each Exquisite Stroke
Fantasy to Reality
I Like Being a Dirty Bitch
Miss blue that Naughty Little Voyeur
Safe Haven
Sexy Skills
Sleep Fucking

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Bianca Beauchamp on a road trip
HNT – Thursday, May 21st, 2009
Hungarian Viva TV presenter is totally nude
Kim Kardashian Playboy Nude Pictures – Few More
Love HNT
Playful Flower
Stunning blonde schoolgirl is punished
“Vixen” -HNT

Sex Humor
A Chocolate Dick Treat
The Secret to Soul Mates

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Blow Jays
Darling, You Look Wonderful Tonight
Have you seen her…?

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I was given an award. My first.


Having my cake, bless her cotton socks, has awarded me the Honest Scraps award. (I’d like to thank my mother, my father, my first-grade teacher, the makers of hand-crafted glass dildos…. heh.)

I got an award -- who'da thunk it??

This award requires me to be completely honest — and this I pledge to be. 🙂Now, i will not lie and tell you that everything (other than this post) that is written on this blog is so much the god’s honest truth that I’d swear on a bible in a court of law. That which is true, that which isn’t, that which is ambiguous and misleading — only i know which phrase applies to which block or word of text. The decision not to reveal this information to you, gentle reader, what is which or which is what, is mine, and I stand by it.

It’s just easier that way.

Guidelines when winning the Honest Scrap award:

1. List 10 honest things about yourself (try to make it interesting, even if you have to dig deep!)

2. Pass the award on to 10 bloggers.

10 Things about Sapphire Jay, the Elegant Slut

1. I turn 40 this week.

2. I thought i was strictly straight until I was 39 years old. Then, ding! revelation. Apparently I’m heteroflexible. Very heteroflexible. 

3. I had a long, drawn-out and protracted affair with a cross-dresser. It was good when it was good, but when it was bad it was terrible. I wasn’t bothered by what he wore, i just hated his taste in clothes. And food, music, movies, life…. Not sextoys, though, now i come to think of it.)

4. I have amazing friends without whom i would not exist. And they all seem to have similar initials! (I won’t mention the initials in order to protect the guilty innocent. Heh.)

5. I recently met a New Person — readers of my Twitter feed will have heard about him. He makes me very happy. Happier than I have been with anyone, long or short term, for a very long time.

6. New Person reminds me of  someone i once loved very deeply, but I think that with him, there is the potential to love him more (he is still relatively new, after all). He’s a similar age, and has a similar manner when around me — warm, loving, protective, sweet, intellectually stimulating, inspiring and utterly adorable. He lacks the two things that the other person had — and this very fact endears him to me even more.

7. Cuckoldry and out-of-control raging jealousy, in case you were wondering what those two things were.

8. I’m a natural blonde, and i use this fact to explain anything from parking violations to typos. Because i can. 🙂

9. Sometimes I really love anal sex – and sometimes i do not want anything near my bottom that isn’t my underwear or a handy piece of toilet tissue at an opportune moment. I’m fickle, what can I tell you?

10. I give the best head. Seriously. I can bring witnesses and everything.

I would award the Honest Scraps award to 10 bloggers, but i’m not sure I know of ten who would do this. Suzanne P, Morpheus, Madeline, Sweatshopsissy, O… er, that’s it. [I have no friends. Sapphire NoMates. 😦 ]

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